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It takes real self-discipline to inject yourself with heroin the first time. Teenagers will disregard everything—their own fears, their parents’ warnings, physical pain, the possibility of going to jail or dying—because they’re convinced that social acceptance requires them not only to take risks but to do so in a cool, seemingly unconcerned manner.
Being able to resist short-term temptations in favor of long-term payoffs is the secret not just to wealth but to civilization itself. It took singular willpower for the first farmers to go out and plant seeds instead of treating themselves to an immediate meal.
Hot-Cold Empathy Gap
In setting rules for how to behave in the future, you’re often in a calm,
cool state, so you make unrealistic commitments. “It’s really easy to agree
to diet when you’re not hungry,” says Loewenstein, a professor at Carnegie
Mellon University.
The self-esteem movement, fortunately, never took hold in the video
game industry, probably because children would have been too bored by
games that began by telling them what great players they were. Instead,
children have preferred games in which they start out as lowly “noobs” (as
in newbies) who must earn respect through their accomplishments. To
acquire skills, they fail over and over.
From Introduction
He and his collaborators discovered that willpower, like a muscle, becomes fatigued from overuse but can also be strengthened over the long term through exercise.
Even someone as preternaturally disciplined as Barack Obama can’t avoid
stray impulses to smoke a cigarette. What he can control is how he reacts:
Does he ignore the impulse, or chew a Nicorette, or sneak out for a smoke?
(He has usually avoided lighting up, according to the White House, but
there have been slips.)