Whether we live alone or with a friend, it seems the world treats unmarried women the same.
Reklam
Living with someone has helped me learn about myself. Our differences are much more obvious and we are constantly in contrast to each other. It is important to find joy in our differences and make an effort to stay true to who we are. In learning more about myself, my understanding of my cohabitant expands.
Everyone lives in the world differently. I have very good eyesight, while Sunwoo has a prescription of -5.5 dioptres. Without her glasses, my face appears as a round blur. Even with contact lenses in, her vision is still worse than mine. Whenever I saw water marks on the mirror or stains on the table, I used to grumble, ‘Why can’t she just wipe them off?’ But that was because while I saw these blemishes so clearly, Sunwoo couldn’t see them at all.
The phrase ‘Don’t put persimmons and pears on someone else’s jesa table’ means not to stick your nose into other people’s business. That doesn’t apply to me. We can’t see the full picture unless we step back, and it is difficult to swallow things that are piping hot. While people may be good at telling others to take it slow or to leave, they somehow hesitate when it pertains to their own relationships. We all need a consultant. When I was thinking of leaving the job I loved, when I saw potential after a job interview, or when I have to practise a nerve-wracking presentation, I can always trust my live-in consultant to explore my options with me and guide me towards the right path. Easily excitable, there are times when Hana gets way too ahead of herself, but I’ve always got my stubbornness to rein things in.
I hope you’ll think about something that makes you happy, and if there’s that something, I hope you’ll try shouting, ‘Happiness is ____!’ Because in times of trouble, that phrase can help you bounce back quicker. All this writing has made me hungry. I wouldn’t mind some sweet potatoes and butter.
Reklam