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Alman ve Orta Avrupa asıllı olup Amerika'da doğmuş Yahudiler de daha az düşmanca bir tavır sergilemiyordu. Doğu Avrupalı dindaşlarını "görgüsüz'', "tembel ve beceriksiz", "itici ve kaba barbarlar" olarak adlandırıyorlardı. B'nai Brith, Tahkir Karşıtı Lig'i kurmadan önce bir grup Rus göçmeni "henüz yeterince medeni olmadıkları" gerekçesiyle cemiyete kabul etmedi. En etkin Yahudi cemaat örgütü Harmony Club, Doğu Avrupalıları dışlıyordu; gayriresmi sloganı ise "daha az Polonyalı, daha fazla zerafet" (more polish and less Polish) idi.
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Many of the female clients (perhaps even a majority) that I see in my clinical practice have trouble in their jobs and family lives not because they are too aggressive, but because they are not aggressive enough. Cognitive-behavioural therapists call the treatment of such people, generally characterized by the more feminine traits of agreeableness
Sayfa 318 - Rule 11Kitabı okudu
RULE I: Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or creative achievement.
RULE II: Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
RULE III: Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.
RULE IV: Note that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
RULE V: Do not do what you hate.
RULE VI: Abandon ideology.
RULE VII: Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens.
RULE VIII: Try to make one room in your home as beautiful as possible.
RULE IX: If old memories still upset you, write them down carefully and completely.
RULE X: Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationship.
RULE XI: Do not allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant.
RULE XII: Be grateful in spite of your suffering.
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If you want to become invaluable in a workplace—in any community—just do the useful things no one else is doing. Arrive earlier and leave later than your compatriots (but do not deny yourself your life). Organize what you can see is dangerously disorganized. Work, when you are working, instead of looking like you are working. And finally, learn more about the business—or your competitors—than you already know. Doing so will make you invaluable—a veritable lynchpin. People will notice that and begin to appreciate your hard-earned merits.
Sayfa 52 - RULE IV: Note that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.Kitabı okudu
Do not pretend you are happy with something if you are not, and if a reasonable solution might, in principle, be negotiated. Have the damn fight. Unpleasant as that might be in the moment, it is one less straw on the camel’s back. And that is particularly true for those daily events that everyone is prone to regard as trivial—even the plates on which you eat your lunch. Life is what repeats, and it is worth getting what repeats right.
Sayfa 43 - RULE III: Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.Kitabı okudu
The limitations of all our perceptions of things and selves manifest themselves when something we can usually depend on in our simplified world breaks down. Then the more complex world that was always there, invisible and conveniently ignored, makes its presence known. It is then that the walled garden we archetypally inhabit reveals its hidden but ever-present snakes.
When things break down, what has been ignored rushes in. When things are no longer specified, with precision, the walls crumble, and chaos makes its presence known. When we’ve been careless, and let things slide, what we have refused to attend to gathers itself up, adopts a serpentine form, and strikes—often at the worst possible moment. It is then that we see what focused intent, precision of aim and careful attention protects us from.
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