İnsanların yaptığı ve söylediği şeyler özellikle sevimsizse, kişisel olarak alma eğiliminden sıyrılmaya çalışmalısınız. Sizi eleştirmeleri ya da sizin çıkarlarınıza karşı davranışları çoğunlukla yeniden yaşadıkları çok derindeki acılarından kaynaklanır; yıllar içinde biriktirdikleri hayal kırıklıklarının ve kırgınlıkların hedefi oluverirsiniz. Eğer insanlara bu açıdan bakarsanız, tepki vermemenin, sinirlenmemenin, önemsiz bir çatışmaya katılmamanın daha kolay olduğunu görürsünüz. Eğer karşınızdaki kişi gerçekten kötü niyetliyse, duygusallaşmayarak en uygun karşı hamleyi planlamak için doğru bir konumda olursunuz. Böylece kendinizi acılar ve kötü duygular biriktirmekten korumuş olursunuz.
If what people do and say is particularly unpleasant, you should try to avoid the tendency to take it personally. Their criticism of you or their behaviour against your interests often comes from deep-seated hurts that they are reliving; you become the target of disappointments and resentments that they have accumulated over the years. If you look at people from this point of view, you will find it easier not to react, not to get angry, not to get involved in a petty conflict. If the other person is really malicious, by not getting emotional you are in a good position to plan the most appropriate counter-attack. In this way you protect yourself from accumulating bitterness and bad feelings.
Sayfa 279 - Altın Kitaplar Yayınevi 1. BasımKitabı okuyor
A sociopath feels no guilt. Because of this, he's freed up to do virtually anything without having to pay any internal price for it. A sociopath can say or do anything she wants and not feel bad the next day, or ever. Along with a lack of guilt comes a profound lack of empathy. For the sociopath, other people's feelings are meaningless because she has no ability to feel them. In fact, sociopaths don't really feel anything the way the rest of us do.
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I wondered if he looked so sad because my heart was in my eyes, and in my voice, and he felt bad that he could never return those kinds of feelings, not for me.
Rock bottom isn’t a bad day. It doesn’t happen by chance. We only arrive at rock bottom when our habits begin to compound upon one another, when our coping mechanisms have spiraled so out of control that we can no longer resist the feelings we were attempting to hide.
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Siz tabii sevklerini sıhhatle duyan bir insansınız. Kendinizi kolayca onlara bırakabiliyorsunuz. Bense öyle değilim içim vehim, zevksizlik ve hasta hesaplarla dolu.
You are a person with a healthy feelings towards natural urges. You can easily entrust yourself to those urges. As for me, I'm not like that. My inside is overflowing with doubts, bad taste and sickly accounts.
Bana cinsiyetini söyle sana hangi duygulara sahip olabileceğini söyleyeyim
Unfortunately, society does a pretty bad job of helping people understand their emotions. Although that's improving, the message most men get is that they can be angry or happy-that's it. Women are given the message that they can have every emotion except anger. Both of these restrictions are truly ridiculous. All people experience all emotions to varying degrees. These gender-based emotional scripts or societal rules keep people from achieving full awareness of their feelings.
Sayfa 111
#1 - Social Engineering
In both of the earlier scenarios, not having enough a good enough plan and model will lead to failure. A good way to practice communication modeling is to write out a model for manipulating people you know well—a husband, wife, parent, child, boss, or friend—to do something you want, to take some action you desire.
List the following five
Let it enfold you, Charles Bukowski
“ either peace or happiness,
let it enfold you
when I was a young man
I felt these things were
dumb, unsophisticated.
I had bad blood, a twisted
mind, a precarious
"My dear future husband!
Life will never be easy with me. My past traumas have taught me to be a guide. I can respond and defend myself. My feelings can be easily hurt. I can think too much of everything, I usually think of bad scenarios. You must be frank and honest with me. Because people in my past have proven to be unreliable and liars. I need your unconditional love in your words and more importantly your actions. I'm still trying to learn how to love myself so I can take care of myself as God sees me. Every day I fight voices in my brain that tell me I'm not enough. I am battling anxiety and depression. Some days I just struggle to get out of bed. But I am a warrior."
Eminem rap god
Look, I was gonna go easy on you and not to hurt your feelings
But I'm only going to get this one chance
Something's wrong, I can feel it (Six minutes, Slim Shady, you're on)
Just a feeling I've got, like something's about to happen, but I don't know what
If that means, what I think it means, we're in trouble, big trouble,
And if he is as bananas
Omer B. Washington-I have learned…
I’ve learned, that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned, that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned,that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned, that no matter how good a friend is, they’re
Presumably, remembered suffering never feels as bad as present suffering,
even if it was really a lot worse – we can’t remember how much worse it was, because remembering is weaker than experiencing. Maybe that’s why
middle-aged people always think their thoughts and feelings are more
important than those of young people, because they can only weakly remember the feelings of their youth while allowing their present experiences to dominate their life outlook.
