Hope
And it was precisely because of it that I said, “I love you.”
His head lifted, eyes churning. “There was a time when I dreamed of hearing that,” he murmured. “When I never thought I’d hear it from
To become girl is to learn to expect such advances, to modify your behavior in accordance; to become girl as becoming wary of being in public space; becoming wary of being at all. Indeed, if you do not modify your behavior in accordance, if you are not careful and cautious, you can be made responsible for the violence directed toward you (look at what you were drinking, look at what you wearing, look at where you were, look look). You can be made responsible whether or not you have modified your behavior in accordance, because gender fatalism has already explained the violence directed against you as forgivable and inevitable.
“mr. nakata, this world is a terribly violent place. and nobody can escape the violence. please keep that in mind. you can’t be too cautious.”
"You know what," said Rusty, "it's better to be overly cautious and be embarrassed by it later than to die in a really stupid way. So from now on, neither of us goes outside alone. That includes me.
Beceri Kazanmanın Önemi
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Düşüncelerinizin en fazla değer verdiğiniz nokta çevresinde dolaşması insan psikolojisinin basit bir yasasıdır. Eğer bu nokta paraysa, çıraklık dönemi için size en yüksek maaşı öneren yeri seçersiniz. Böyle bir yerde aldığınız maaşa layık olduğunuzu genellikle daha hazır olmadan kanıtlamak için aşırı baskı altında olduğunuzu hissedersiniz. Beceri kazanmak yerine kendinize, öz güvensizliklerinize, doğru insanları memnun etme ve etkileme üzerine odaklanırsınız. Yaptığınız hatalardan ders almak çok pahalıya patlayacağından, temkinli, tutucu bir yaklaşım izlersiniz.
Yaşamınız ilerledikçe, dolgun maaşa bağımlı olursunuz ve maaş çeki nereye gideceğinize, nasıl düşüneceğinize, ne yapacağınıza karar verir. Eninde sonunda beceri kazanmak için harcamadığınız zaman sizi yakalar ve düşüşünüz çok acı olur.
It is a simple law of human psychology that your thoughts will tend to revolve around what you value most. If it is money, you will choose a place for your apprenticeship that offers the biggest paycheck. Inevitably, in such a place you will feel greater pressures to prove yourself worthy of such pay, often before you are really ready. You will be focused on yourself, your insecurities, the need to please and impress the right people, and not on acquiring skills. It will be too costly for you to make mistakes and learn from them, so you will develop a cautious, conservative approach. As you progress in life, you will become addicted to the fat paycheck and it will determine where you go, how you think, and what you do. Eventually, the time that was not spent on learning skills will catch up with you, and the fall will be painful.
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