Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries
Emotional First Aid
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Low Self-Esteem Treatment A: Adopt Self Compassion & Silence The Critical Voices In Your Head
Low Self-Esteem Treatment B: Identify Your Strengths & Affirm Them
Low Self-Esteem Treatment C: Increase Your Tolerance For Compliments
Low Self-Esteem Treatment D: Increase Your Personal Empowerment
Practice, patience, and persistence are key ingredients in developing personal empowerment. Once we begin speaking up, we will be able to assess our strengths and weaknesses and learn which of our skills and tools still need work. Each setback will also teach us how to devise more effective plans.
Low Self-Esteem Treatment E: Improve Your Self Control
Exercise: Use your nondominant hand for as many tasks as possible every day between the hours of 8:00a.m. and 6:00p.m. for four to eight weeks.
Most of us only put in as much effort as a situation requires from us. If we can "get away" with being less considerate or less reciprocal, and various other forms of "getting without giving", many of us will, not because we're evil, but simply because we can. If people demanded or expected more of us we would do more, but when they don't, we don't make the effort. This dynamic is true in practically every relationship we have. When our self-esteem is low and we expect very little of others, we are likely to get very little from them as well.
Changing this dynamic once a relationship is already established is difficult because we're in essence "changing the terms of the deal" after the other person has already been operating under a specific set of assumptions and expectations. That is why it is crucial to pay great attention to the expectations we set up when our friendships and romantic relationships first begin.
Failure Treatment A: Get Support & Get Real
Failure Treatment B: Focus On Factors In Your Control
Failure Treatment C: Take Responsibility and Own The Fear
Rumination Treatment A: Change Your Perspective
(self immersed perspective x self distanced perspective)
Rumination Treatment B: Distract Yourself From Emotional Pain
(suppression x distraction)
Rumination Treatment C: Reframe The Anger
Rumination Treatment D: Go Easy On Your Friends
Intense ruminations can often make us so focused on our own emotional needs that we become blind to those of the people around us and our relationships often suffer as a result.
Ruminating on our problems and feelings scratches at our emotional scabs and causes four primary psychological wounds: it intensifies our sadness and allows it to persist for far longer than it might have otherwise; likewise, it intensifies and prolongs our anger; it hogs substantial amounts of emotional and intellectual resources, inhibiting motivation, initiative, and our ability to focus and think productively; and our need to discuss the same events or feelings repeatedly for weeks, months, and sometimes years on end taxes the patience and compassion of our social support systems and puts our relationships at risk.