I quit buying the idea that a successful marriage is one that lasts till death, even if one or both spouses are dying inside it.
Now the goal of parenting is: Never allow anything difficult to happen to your child.
Reklam
Thinking is like… it’s like googling your own brain.
When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please her.
My superpower is empathy, which means that I am often unable to distinguish between what is happening to other people and what is happening to me.
Reklam
A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.
If we want to built the new, we must be willing to let the old burn.
No one has ever lived, or will ever live this life I am attempting to live, with my gifts and challenges and past and people.
Maybe the question was no longer “How could he have done this to me?” but “How can I keep doing this to myself?” Maybe instead of forever repeating, “How could he have abandoned me?” I needed to ask, “Why do I keep abandoning myself?”
Sayfa 210
Reklam
Ah, yes. This is what people are like. We are all so fucked up and so magical. Life is so brutal and beautiful. Life is brutiful. For all of us.
Sayfa 203
Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore—I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all—and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made me less afraid of myself, of other people, of life. I learned that I’d never be free from pain but I could be free from the fear of pain, and that was enough. I finally stopped avoiding fires long enough to let myself burn, and what I learned was that I am like that burning bush: The fire of pain won’t consume me. I can burn and burn and live. I can live on fire. I am fireproof.
Sayfa 49
When a woman finally learns that pleasing the world is impossible, she becomes free to learn how to please herself.
Sayfa 53
Like Westley from The Princess Bride, who said, “Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.”
Sayfa 50
"...Feeling all your feelings is hard, but that’s what they’re for. Feelings are for feeling. All of them. Even the hard ones. The secret is that you’re doing it right, and that doing it right hurts sometimes."
Sayfa 48
Resim