There is no possible fight for someone deprived of an identity, no internal
motivation for fighting, since, although I can fight only with others, first I fight for myself.
" If you want to accomplish something but don’t feel motivated or inspired, then you assume you’re just screwed. There’s nothing you can do about it. It’s not until a major emotional life event occurs that you can generate enough motivation to actually get off the couch and do something. "
Ferrari (1992b) found that for high GP (generel procrastination) scores perfectionistic behavior loaded with acquisitive and protective self-presentation, social anxiety and self-handicapping (indicating "getting along" with others factor for doing fine work). For low GP scores, perfectionism loaded only with acquisitive self-presentation ( suggesting a striving for excellence motivation by "getting ahead" of others).
If you lack the motivation to make an important change in your life, do something—anything, really—and then harness the reaction to that action as a way to begin motivating yourself.
Dear Cassie,
I’ve been wanting to give this to you for ages, and after the incredible gift you gave me last
night, I figured the time felt right. I found it in a little antique shop in Milano while I was
touring Europe. I don’t know why it caught my eye, but I had to buy it for you.
The thing is, it’s not perfect. It’s had a lot of owners,