In the moment, separating your past self from your current self can be unsettling. Even positive changes can lead to negative emotions; evolving your identity can leave you feeling derailed and disconnected. Over time, though, rethinking who you are appears to become mentally healthy-as long as you can tell a coherent story about how you got from past to present you. In one study, when people felt detached from their past selves, they became less depressed over the course of the year. When you feel as if your life is changing direction, and you're in the process of shifting who you are, it's easier to walk away from foolish beliefs you once held.
My past self was Mr. Facts-I was too fixated on knowing. Now I'm more interested in finding out what I don't know. As Bridgewater founder Ray Dalio told me, "If you don't look back at yourself and think, 'Wow, how stupid I was a year ago, then you must not have learned much in the last year."
The second kind of detachment is separating your opinions from your identity. I'm guessing you wouldn't want to see a doctor whose iden- tity is Professional Lobotomist, send your kids to a teacher whose identity is Corporal Punisher, or live in a town where the police chief's identity is Stop-and-Frisker. Once upon a time, all of these practices were seen as reasonable and effective.
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Maskülen ve Feminen Düşünme Tarzı
𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐮̈𝐥𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐮̈𝐬̧𝐮̈𝐧𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐳𝛊 , olguları birbirinden ayırmaya ve sınıflandırmaya odaklanmıştır. Daha iyi etiketleyebilmek için aralarındaki zıtlıkları arar.
Her şeyi tıpkı bir makine gibi parçalara ayırmak ve bütünü oluşturan kısımları incelemek ister. Düşünme süreci çizgiseldir, bir olguya giden adımların sırasını çözer. Duygusal tarafsızlıkla
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Allerton responded without hostility or disgust, but in his eyes Lee saw a curious detachment, the impersonal calm of an animal or a child.
Geriye çekilip diğer kişiye kendi sorunlarıyla uğraşma fırsatı vermek, duygusal uzaklaşmayla aynı şey değildir.
Stepping back to allow the other person to deal with their own problems is not the same as emotional detachment.
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If we adapt over time we will eventually find our way, but if we make too many mistakes we will create countless problems for ourselves. We spend too much time immersed in emotional problems and have no time to reflect and learn from our experiences.
If we adjust over time, we might eventually find our way; but if we make too many mistakes, we create endless problems for ourselves. We spend too much time entangled in emotional issues, and we never quite have enough detachment to reflect and learn from our experiences.
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Perhaps I am a man of exceptional moods. I do not know how far my
experience is common. At times I suffer from the strangest sense of
detachment from myself and the world about me; I seem to watch it all from
the outside, from somewhere inconceivably remote, out of time, out of
space, out of the stress and tragedy of it all. This feeling was very strong
upon me that night. Here was another side to my dream.
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