"Forced forgiveness is a false truce for the sake of "unity" . It coerces an iternal peace when nothing is at peace.
Everyone wants a redemption arc. But why make the victim's redemption a "reconciliation" with their abuser? Redeem their safety, not a false feelgood story.
Forgiveness is powerful and liberating. But too often it's externalized into a point value spectacle of how "strong" the victim is. But never holding the abuser accountable. The victim never asked to be strong or to be made a cautionary victory story. They needed dignity and safety.
Your pain needs no qualificition to be heard
pain qualifies itself.
Your anger must be given room
İt is a wound to be tended to.
Your forgiveness is your tempo, your pace.
We are called to have grace, and that grace is for you too. "
#J.S. Park