POEM TO MARY (SECOND POEM)
Now sleeps he
With that old whore Death
Who, yesterday, denied her thrice.
Repeat after me
Now sleeps he
With that old whore Death
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“You need to accept that different people will have different responses to the same conversation.”
I didn’t care who I hurt. I’ve never needed something in return for hurting anyone, and I didn’t need motivation to inflict pain. I was built full of rage.
"The truth was that I didn't really feel the need for it; I had never envisioned having a child, I didn't feel about them one way or another. And that seemed enough of a reason not to: having a child, I thought, was something you should actively want, crave, even. It was not a venture for the ambivalent or passionless."
Maiden
"So tell me, my sweet maiden, may I call as I wish to, as I crave to, as I need to: May I call you, my love? May I call you my heart? May I call you my one?"
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The effect of overrracting Imagination
Psychologists call this practice labeling or naming: we specify the emotion we are feeling in order to more effectively manage it. When we articulate what is happening, we give ourselves a choice in how to respond. This technique is especially effective when what is preyenting us from staying present is the intensity of our emo- tions. If, for instance, we find ourselves in a stressful situation, tell- ing ourselves things like "This is my anxiety speaking" or "I am having a strong reaction to what's happening" can help us return to the present. Labeling emotions can provide clarity in the moment (That's my fear rearing its ugly head.) and control (This fear comes from my overactive imagination and I don't need to pay it mind right ong pro now.). This process helps us gain distance from what we are feeling and regulate our emotions in real time.¹
You can employ labeling not just for managing strong emotions in the moment, like when we are in the face of anxiety, but also for managing thoughts that are rote, neutral, or nonemotionaly
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Sometimes it is easy to see why a person, group or organisation holds a particular view, for they may have a particular motive or vested interest. For example, if a representative of the tobacco industry tells you that smoking is not really harmful and that the health risks are exaggerated, then you should rightly dismiss what they say. After all, they would say that, wouldn’t they? But all too often people mistakenly apply this same reasoning when they don’t need to. For example, if a climatologist says that Earth’s climate is changing rapidly and that we need to modify our lifestyles to prevent catastrophic consequences, a climate change denier will often counter with, “Well, of course they would say that.… They’re in the pay of ‘x’ ” (where ‘x’ could be an environmental group or green energy company, or just perceived liberal academia).
I am not denying that in certain cases this cynicism may be justified, for we can all think of examples of research that is funded for ideologically driven or profit-driven motives. And we must also be wary of so-called data dredging—also known as ‘p-hacking’—whereby analysis of data is misused deliberately in order to find something that can be presented as statistically significant, then only reporting those cherry-picked conclusions
'i need lunch for me and three of my officers. think you could go in there and rustle up some sandwiches? there's a five pounds in it for you if they're edible.'
'yes, sir. certainly, sir. they'll be the best you ever tasted.' he trotted into the house.
'your fiver's safe, mr barnes,' george said. 'the wrapper will be the only edible bit, take it from me.'
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“He won’t leave.”
“Oh, he’ll have to. I need him.”
“But I needed him.”
“Perhaps you did. But Ziya’s not your anchor. He’s mine.”
This is a two-way mirror. I've got the other one of the pair. If you need to speak to me, just say my name into it; you'll appear in my mirror and I'll be able to talk in yours. James and I used to use them when we were in separate detentions.
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