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The memories that remain clearly in my mind tell me how much I loved you, how much we loved each other.
For the next three months, we thought about getting married. I had principled and ideological objections. I viewed marriage as a bourgeois institution, and thought that since love was at stake, it socialized and legally regulated a relationship that should unite two people in the least social sphere. The legal bond had the tendency, even the duty, to become independent of the couple's emotions and experience. And I was saying: “What can guarantee that, in ten or twenty years, our lifelong contract will correspond to the desires of the people we will become?”
Your answer was inevitable: “If you are united with someone for a lifetime, you can share your lives and forget about doing the thing that would tear or break your marriage. It is your common design to create a couple from yourself, you can never stop redirecting, adapting and supporting it according to changing conditions. We will be whatever we do together.”
Son Mektup / André Gorz