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There's a myth that therapists are trained to be neutral, but how can we be? We're humans, not robots. In fact, instead of being neutral, we therapists strive to notice our very un-neutral feelings and biases and opinions (what we call countertransference), so that we can step back and figure out what to do with them. We use, rather than suppress, our feelings to help guide the treatment.
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Every therapy session belongs to both patients and therapist, to the interaction between them. It was the psychoanalyst Harry Stack Sullivan who, in the early twentieth century, developed a theory of psychiatry based on interpersonal relationships. Breaking away from Freud's position that mental disorders were intrapsychic in origin (meaning "in one's mind"), Sullivan believed that our struggles were interactional (meaning "relational"). He went so far as to say, "It's the mark of a senior clinician that he or she is the same person in their living room that they are in their office."
Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.
There's a popular saying, a paraphrase of a Robert Frost poem: "The only way out is through." The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around it.
"If the queen had balls, she'd be the king." If you go through life picking and choosing, if you don't recognize that "the perfect is the enemy of the good," you may deprive yourself of joy.
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