StoneDraconis
@stonedraconis
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Ondokuz Mayıs Üniversitesi/Sosyal Hizmet
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Haziran 2014 tarihinde katıldı
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You're only poor if you give up. The most important thing is that you did something. Most people only talk and dream of getting rich. You've done something.
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Zihnimizde tasarladığımız şekle uymadığı anda çocuğu bizi üzmekle suçlarız. Dört yandan herkesin çocuğa "Öyle yapma ama, bak, anneni/ babanı/öğretmenini üzüyorsun," dediğini duyarım. Halbuki kendisi üzgün olmayan hiçbir çocuk anne-babasını, öğretmenini, bizim bakışımızla söylersek "bir büyüğünü" üzmez. "Anneni üzüyorsun," dediğimiz her durum için, çocuğun neden üzgün olduğuna bakmalı. Çocuğun hislerini hiçe saymayı o kadar kanıksamış haldeyiz ki. Çocuk da hisleriyle bağ kuramadan, gerçek hislerinin ne olduğunu bile bilemeden, onları bastırmayı ve yok saymayı öğrenerek büyüyor.
It is easy to get bogged down trying to find the optimal plan for change: the fastest way to lose weight, the best program to build muscle, the perfect idea for a side hustle. We are so focused on figuring out the best approach that we never get around to taking action. As Voltaire once wrote, “The best is the enemy of the good.”
James Harvey Robinson’s enlightening book The Mind in the Making.
We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts. We are incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves filled with an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship. It is obviously not the ideas themselves that are dear to us, but our self-esteem which is threatened. . . . The little word “my” is the most important one in human affairs, and properly to reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom. It has the same force whether it is “my” dinner, “my” dog, and “my” house, or “my” father, “my” country, and “my” God. We not only resent the imputation that our watch is wrong, or our car shabby, but that our conception of the canals of Mars, of the pronunciation of “Epictetus,” of the medicinal value of salicin, or of the date of Sargon I is subject to revision. We like to continue to believe what we have been accustomed to accept as true, and the resentment aroused when doubt is cast upon any of our assumptions leads us to seek every manner of excuse for clinging to it. The result is that most of our so-called reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.
If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own