Luna Lovegood
@HolmesEurus
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It’s important to know that giving doesn’t hinge on healing. The ego’s common line says, “If I’m not fully healed then how I can give?” The giving facilitates the healing, and the healing nourishes the giving. They work in tandem: twin, symbiotic poles that help us grow and move more and more toward love. And the more love we grow, the less room there is for fear.
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We all have this part of us. Every time you offer support to a friend in need, you’re accessing your own inner compassionate friend. Every time you hold loving space for your son or daughter to feel their feelings, you’re accessing the inner parent. Every time you connect to your wisdom, that place below thoughts and feelings, you’re touching into your wise self.
Every time you take care of your body, heart, mind, or soul in a loving and attentive way, you’re acting from your loving adult. Every time you take care of your pet, you’re being a loving caregiver.
Along with resistance, one of the ways that people refuse responsibility is by subscribing to the belief that their suffering shouldn’t be happening: that if something external were different, they wouldn’t be struggling with anxiety.
As discussed, we’re so culturally addicted to the belief that our internal states are determined by external circumstances that it’s like swimming upstream to develop a different mindset — one that invites taking 100 percent responsibility for our pain. The belief that anxiety shouldn’t be happening stops people dead in their tracks from doing the work that needs to be done. This is fighting against reality, because the anxiety is happening, and every time you fall prey to the escape-hatch mindset you miss the opportunity you’re being given to heal and grow.
We cannot heal if we’re waiting for someone else to heal us and if we’re committed to a mindset of blame and refusal.
If you commit to your inner work and call on the resource of patience — while continually naming resistance every time it tries to sabotage your attempts to heal — and choose the counteraction, you will break through as well.
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