healthy remorse vs. shame |
The difference between healthy remorse and shame is that remorse says, "I did something bad", while shame says, "I am bad". Remorse focuses on a behavior, while shame focuses on the self. Remorse makes you concerned about the feelings of others, while shame makes you only concerned with your own feelings of worthlessness. Shame does not motivate change because it leads to hopelessness. If I believe that I am bad, I will feel powerless to improve things. Thus, shame is highly correlated with things like addiction, depression, violence, and aggression. Shame will make you want to run away from the problem, while remorse will motivate you to fix it.
Spiritually, shame is very dangerous because it makes you want to hide from Allah, rather than seek forgiveness and try again.
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The fetish is an object that commands an emotional response and that makes us breathe life into it. Because it is an object we can imagine whatever we want to about it. Most people are too moody, complex, and reactive to let us see them as objects that we can fetishize. The power of the Fetishistic Star comes from an ability to become an object, and not just any object but an object we fetishize, one that stimulates a variety of fantasies. Fetishistic Stars are perfect, like the statue of a Greek god or goddess. The effect is startling, and seductive. Its principal requirement is self-distance. If you see yourself as an object, then others will too. An ethereal, dreamlike air will heighten the effect.
You are a blank screen. Float through life noncommittally and people will want to seize you and consume you. Of all the parts of your body that draw this fetishistic attention, the strongest is the face; so learn to tune your face like an instrument, making it radiate a fascinating vagueness for effect. And since you will have to stand out from other Stars in the sky, you will need to develop an attention-getting style. (...) Remember, your own image and presence are materials you can control. The sense that you are engaged in this kind of play will make people see you as superior and worthy of imitation.
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