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Ancient cultures have long understood that we exist in relationship to all, are affected by all, and affect all.
In the Hindu scripture the Bhagavad Gita, the divine avatar Krishna declares, "They live in wisdom who see themselves in all and all in them." And the early seventeenth-century cleric and poet John Donne famously mused, "No man is an island, entire of itself." He composed this line, perhaps not coincidentally, during a period of illness and convalescence. Walt Whitman, writing in mid-nineteenth-century America, could have cribbed the verse cited in the above epigraph from today's quantum physics.
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This Harvard research provided further striking evidence that emotional stresses are inseparable from the physical states of our bodies, in illness and health. Already in previous work, depression had been associated with elevated ovarian cancer risk. The impact of stress had also been studied: among lab mice with ovarian cancer cells injected into their abdominal cavities, those subjected to emotional aggravation such as being physically restrained or isolated had much greater incidence of tumor growth and spread than socially housed animals that were not restrained." The Harvard scientists theorized that stress can "promote ovarian cancer development by inhibiting key defenses against unrestrained cell growth." In other words, stress may disable our immune systems' capacity to control and eliminate malignancy.
Caroline's outburst at the unsuspecting physician was out of character. All her life she had fit the profile of the nice person who avoids confrontation. "My way was always being the care-taker, being needed, always coming to somebody's rescue, a lot of the time to my own detriment," she told me. "I never wanted to have conflict with anyone. And I always had to be in charge, making sure everything was okay." Caroline had exhibited what has been called "superautonomous self-sufficiency," which means exactly what it sounds like: an exaggerated and outsize aversion to asking anything of anyone.
Blame becomes a meaningless concept the moment one understands how suffering in a family system or even in a community extends back through the generations. "Recognition of this quickly dispels any disposition to see the parent as villain," wrote John Bowlby, the British psychiatrist who showed the decisive importance of adult-child relationships in shaping the psyche. No matter how far back we look in the chain of consequence -great-grandparents, pre-modern ancestors, Adam and Eve, the first single-celled amoeba- the accusing finger can find no fixed target. That should come as a relief.
If trauma entails a disconnection from the self, then it makes sense to say that we are being collectively flooded with influences that both exploit and reinforce trauma. Work pressures, multitasking, social media, news updates, multiplicities of entertainment sources -these all induce us to become lost in thoughts, frantic activities, gadgets, meaningless conversations. We are caught up in pursuits of all kinds that draw us on not because they are necessary or inspiring or uplifting, or because they enrich or add meaning to our lives, but simply because they obliterate the present.