The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love
Attached
Amir LevineAttached Sözleri ve Alıntıları
Attached sözleri ve alıntılarını, Attached kitap alıntılarını, Attached en etkileyici cümleleri ve paragragları 1000Kitap'ta bulabilirsiniz.Bağlanma prensipleri bize insanların ancak giderilmemiş ihtiyaçları kadar muhtaç olduklarını öğretir
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When our partner is unable to meet our basic attachment needs, we experience a chronic sense of disquiet and tension
that leaves us more exposed to various ailments. Not only is our
emotional well-being sacrificed when we are in a romantic partnership with someone who doesn't provide a secure base, but so is our physical health
It seems, then, that our partners powerfully affect our ability
to thrive in the world. There is no way around that. Not only do
they influence how we feel about ourselves but also the degree
to which we believe in ourselves and whether we will attempt to
achieve our hopes and dreams. Having a partner who fulfills our
hopes and feels comfortable acting
intrinsic attachment needs and feels comfortable as a secure
base and safe haven can help us remain emotionally and physically
healthier and live longer.Having a partner who is inconsistently available or supportive can be a truly demoralising and debilitating experience that can literally stunt our growth and stymie our health.
Numerous studies show that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. We are no longer separate entities. The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today’s popular psychology approaches to adult relationships does not hold water from a biological perspective. Dependency is a fact; it is not a choice or a preference.
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“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love.” So choose wisely when you are getting involved with someone, because the stakes are high: Your happiness depends on it!
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Among adults, the prevailing notion is still that too much dependence in a relationship is a bad thing.
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Yetişkin bağlanmasının temelini tek bir cümleyle açıklamamız gerekseydi, bu şu olurdu:
Bağımsızlık ve mutluluğa giden yola çıkmak isterseniz, öncelikle
bağlanılacak doğru insanı bulun ve bu yolculuğa onunla çıkın.
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