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@s_liyarli
22 years old anti-social realist.
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Summary of 5th essay - "16 Signs of a Socially Intelligent Person"
social intelligence is crucial for effective communication and forming meaningful connections. politeness is important, but traditional politeness should not suppress genuine expression. socially intelligent individuals possess certain core traits that enable them to engage with others comfortably while remaining true to themselves. these traits
Sayfa 19
the next time you blame an external factor for your lack of self- discipline, think again. was it the person eating chocolate next to you who controlled what you put in your mouth, or was it you?
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Day 5: On Enslavement to Self
before complaining that you are a slave to another, be sure that you are not a slave to self. look within; you will find there, perchance, slavish thoughts, slavish desires, and in your daily life and conduct slavish habits. conquer these; cease to be a slave to self, and no man will have the power to enslave you.
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Okur Takip Önerileri
10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People do not Do
1. They don’t assume that the way they think and feel about a situation is the way it is in reality, nor how it will turn out in the end.
2. Their emotional base points are not external.
Their emotions aren’t “somebody else’s doing,” and therefore “somebody else’s problem to resolve.” (in my words, they take responsibility for their emotions and
prepare yourself for difficult situations by putting up roadblocks ahead of time, when your resolve isn’t being tested. your self- control system will do some of the heavy lifting for you, leaving your reserves of self-discipline to be used for the unplanned situations, when they arise.
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the best way to protect yourself against temptations is to avoid them — and for that, plain old preparation is more valuable than self-control.
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Day 4: On Creating Systems
i value self-discipline, but creating systems that make it next to impossible to misbehave is more reliable than self-control.
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Day 3: On Being a Human
strive to be a better human and embrace your humanity by exercising your “willpower muscle,” instead of succumbing to your most primal (and least helpful for your long-term goals) part of the brain.
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məğlubiyyətin ən çox yayılmış səbəblərindən biri insanın müvəqqəti uğursuzluğa düçar olarkən irəlidəki axtarışlardan əl çəkməsidir
Sayfa 45
“you always do.”
a lack of routine is just a breeding ground for perpetual procrastination. it gives us gaps and spaces in which our subconscious minds can say: “well, you can take a break now,” when in fact, you have a deadline. but if you’re used to taking a break at that point in time, you’ll allow it simply because “you always do.”
Sayfa 14
when we don’t settle into routine, we teach ourselves that “fear” is an indicator that we’re doing the wrong thing, rather than just being very invested in the outcome.
Sayfa 14
as your body self-regulates, routine becomes the pathway to “flow.”
“flow” (in case you don’t know—you probably do) is essentially what happens when we become so completely engaged with what we’re doing, all ideas or worries dissolve, and we’re just completely present in the task.
Sayfa 14
you feel content because routine consistently reaffirms a decision you already made. if said decision is that you want to write a book—and you commit to doing three pages each night for however long it takes to complete it—you affirm not only your choice to begin, but your ability to do it. it’s honestly the healthiest way to feel validated.
Sayfa 14
when you regulate your daily actions, you deactivate your “fight or flight” instincts because you’re no longer confronting the unknown.
Sayfa 13
happiness is not how many things you do, but how well you do them. more is not better. happiness is not experiencing something else; it’s continually experiencing what you already have in new and different ways. unfortunately as we’re taught that passion should drive our every thought move and decision, we’re basically impaled with the fear that we’re unhappy because we’re not doing “enough.”
Sayfa 13