In a dream world, our loved ones would immediately know what we need and adjust their behaviour accordingly. In the real world, they can’t read minds, they have their own needs and changing habits is hard.
Connections in our brain change based on our experiences, including the experience of therapy. Brain studies are so impressively sciencey, they can make you feel like their results mean more than they really do. Sometimes finding out that a problem can be seen in brain scans can make you feel like that means there is nothing that can be done about it.
But, what happens in the brain is a reflection of what we are experiencing. We can change the connections in our brain. We can use medication and treatments like transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) to target the brain, which then influences what we experience. Or we can use therapy and behaviour change, changing what we experience, and therefore changing what happens in our brain.