Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life
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Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life
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Iphigenia in Tauris
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Neurodiversity
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On Heroes, Hero-Worship, and the Heroic in History
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A Pocketful of Crows
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In the Country of Last Things
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Inside Language
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Abelard ve Heloise: Mektuplar
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Hayvan Çiftliği
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Kâğıt Ev
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Shyness and Dignity
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Frodo's Journey
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Who Killed My Father
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Greek Tragedy
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Bekleyiş Unutuş
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Loki
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The Body Keeps the Score
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İnsancıklar
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The Inklings
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Kürk Mantolu Madonna
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Doppler
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Beowulf
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Poor executive function is why an autistic person can ace IQ tests but not be able to complete a project, get to class on time, prepare a meal, or do any number of seemingly simple things that require being organized, completing many tasks in sequence, or planning ahead.
Frustratingly, an executive function deficit is not something you can fix by simply trying harder. Often, other people will look at the symptoms of impaired executive function and assume the autistic person is lazy, spaced out, or disorganized. If only they would make more effort, everything could be fixed. In fact, I think most autistic people—including me—think this of themselves at times. On top of this, executive functioning capacity can vary over time. You may find that there are days when you are much more functional and days when even the simplest tasks require an exhausting amount of effort
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I’ve always been disturbed by confrontation and conflict, even when I’m only a bystander.
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As an adult, I’m not proud of this. Why do I desperately need to flee a situation where I’m nothing more than an observer?
Because, I’ve realized, I don’t discriminate between anger that is aimed at me and anger in general. When someone is angry, I invariably feel like I’m the cause or the target, even when I rationally know that I’m not.
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Just as I have difficulty labeling my own emotions, I have trouble identifying what others are feeling. I struggle with interpreting facial expressions and body language. I’m weak at perspective-taking. Basically, when it comes to reading emotional clues, I’m like one of those old-time detectives who had to solve murders without any forensic evidence. There’s only so much information you can glean from what people tell you outright. This difficulty determining what others are feeling is a big contributor to the stereotype of the empathy-deficient Aspie. If someone is giving off “I’m sad” cues that I fail to recognize, when I don’t console them they’ll assume I’m cold and unsympathetic. For neurotypical people, emotional interaction is like looking in a mirror. They expect to see a reflective emotion looking back at them and when they don’t, they assume the mirror is broken. This isn’t to say I’m oblivious to other people’s emotional states. I get the obvious ones and the ones that I can derive from contextual clues. What I tend to miss are subtle or unexpected emotional states.
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When an Aspie says they don’t know what they’re feeling, it’s a literal statement. We aren’t trying to dodge the conversation. We aren’t withholding information. We aren’t being rude, mean, cold, coy, or vindictive.
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When I set out to research why people on the spectrum tend to be uncoordinated, I quickly ran into a confusing mess of theories: motor planning deficit, motor development delay, motor timing impairment, problems with initiation or inhibition, imitation and praxis impairments,
deficient postural control, under-reliance on feedforward control. There are also a handful of other conditions that muddy the waters further: apraxia, ataxia, hypotonia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia, dyskinesia…
Overwhelmed by the sheer number of possible explanations, I decided to focus on the most important questions: what does this mean in my daily life and what can I do about it?
Most of the experts agree that:
• some level of gross and fine motor impairment is nearly universal in people on the spectrum
• the cause of motor development delay in autism is unknown
• motor impairments may improve somewhat with age, but generally persist into adulthood.
In other words, if you’re autistic, you’re probably somewhat clumsy and you probably always will be, but no one really knows why. While fine and gross motor impairments are not part of the official diagnostic criteria for ASD, autistic children routinely receive occupational therapy to improve their fine motor coordination, balance, and posture. The uncoordinated Aspie isn’t
just a stereotype. Impaired motor function is real and pervasive and it affects our ability to do everything from writing our names legibly to playing sports.
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Slowly, as I made my way through the jungle of social communication deficits, a few key ideas took shape:
• The way I use my face and body to convey information is different from the way typical people communicate nonverbally.
• Even when I pay attention to facial expressions and body language—which I rarely do—they carry little meaning for me.
• My ability to process verbal communication and to communicate with speech is impaired, while my ability to communicate in writing is a strength.
• I’ve developed unusual ways of navigating social situations, substituting rules, pattern recognition, and scripted language for perspective taking and reading nonverbal communication.
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There were dozens of little tells that were undeniably me and had nothing to do with being shy or introverted. The way I often talk too loudly or too quietly. The intense interests in unusual topics. My blunt honesty. My heavy dependence on lists and routines. The way I don’t recognize people “out of context.” My discomfort with compliments.
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The economist Fabian Linden said, “It is useful occasionally to look at the past to gain a perspective on the present” but I think the opposite is also true. By looking at the present, I’ve also been able to gain a perspective on my past.
When I have to deal with unstructured activities, unfamiliar places, new people, rapid shifts in conversation, partners, or topics, or any of a long list of other things I find challenging, I’ll hit my limit sooner. An hour might be all I can deal with before I start feeling a strong need to escape.