Luna Lovegood
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Before we dive into the technique, it’s essential to have an overview of the parts of yourself, the different characters that are living inside of you at all times. We each have multiple parts that rear up during different situations. When you understand these parts, you can start to name them and create some separateness; then you decide if it’s a part of you that needs more attention and, if so, what kind of attention.
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Remember that everything inside of us wants to be seen and heard. When you give attention to the fear and resistance, you will notice that it transforms.
When Mommy’s face lights up when Billy draws a “perfect” tree but doesn’t when he struggles with basketball, he will naturally direct his energy toward the place where he receives positive feedback. In other words, he may love basketball more than drawing, but Mommy seemed so impressed by his tree, that he pursues an area that isn’t his passion.
Perhaps one of the most powerful vaccinations against anxiety is to know you are fully loved. One way we can limit anxiety in kids — it might not be entirely preventable given the culture we live in — is to transmit that message daily. This is where your own process of self-reflection and inner work come in, for the more aware you are of your trigger points, the less reactive you’ll be to your child’s less-than-lovely yet totally normal behavior.
Laugh, dance, tickle, and hug as much as possible. Play and laughter are antidotes to anxiety.
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