Hakan
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An automatic consequence of the weakening of communal and family ties is that our kids must seek their attachment needs elsewhere. Children, like the young of many species, must attach to someone in their lives: their neurophysiology demands it. Absent a reliable attachment figure, they experience fear and disorientation. Their brain wiring will go, well, haywire. In effect, essential brain circuits having to do with capacities such as learning, healthy social interaction, or emotional regulation will not develop appropriately.
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For healthy child development, according to the child's neurobiological requirements, a much longer period with the mother is necessary - ideally for a minimum of nine months until the infant reaches a stage of relative biological maturity. The sudden loss of maternal contact is, for the infant, a shock- as we know from animal studies, even those whose period of dependence is much shorter than ours.
On imaging studies, a baby's smile will light up the same reward areas in the mom's brain activated by junk foods or addictive drugs, releasing the same pleasure chemicals and triggering the same high. Nature, that unscrupulous drug-pusher.
Around the fourteenth century, as the psychohistorian Lloyd de Mause writes, "there was no image more popular than that of the physical molding of children, who were seen as soft wax, plaster, or clay to be beaten into shape." The intent was to break the child's independent spirit, from birth onward. It was also around this time, he points out, that parenting manuals began to multiply in earnest.
We also know from our section on epigenetics that a mom's high stress levels during gestation can negatively influence the genetic functioning of the offspring, potentially impairing his lifelong stress-response capacities. Such effects have been shown to last well into midlife.
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