... observe your mental formations, the ideas and tendencies within you that lead you to speak and act as you do. Notice how you are influenced by your individual consciousness and also by the collective consciousness of your family, ancestors, and society.
The Buddha observed, “The person who suffers most in this world is the person who has many wrong perceptions, and most of our perceptions are erroneous.” You see a snake in the dark and you panic, but when your friend shines a light on it, you see that it is only a rope. You have to know which wrong perceptions cause suffering.
When we are in the grips of fear, we close down and can’t be compassionate or generous. To love others, we first have to be loving and gentle with ourselves.