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To be in a relationship of love is, in other words, always to be in a relationship of fear; indeed, the greater the love the greater the fear.
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Since love is born in extreme vulnerability and seeks to overcome that condition through a correspondingly extreme invulnerability, it easily succumbs to its greatest temptation: to play God. To imagine it is unconditioned by the value of the loved one. To pretend that it is sovereign enough to be devoted disinterestedly to him ‘for his own sake’. To pronounce itself eternal.
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And the sacred is always accompanied by fears of desecration. When the stakes are so high lapses of devotion are ominous. And easy: dedication is readily threatened by simple pleasures, doubt, laziness and less demanding idols. Sacrilege is just a step from reverence.
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Human love, now even more than then, is widely tasked with achieving what once only divine love was thought capable of: to be our ultimate source of meaning and happiness, and of power over suffering and disappointment.
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[St Francis of Assisi] rejects possessions not to flee the world, but on the contrary to come close to a world uncluttered by their demands and distractions. He helps us see that to call money ‘worldly’ is a misnomer; for it *obstructs intimacy* with the world rather than expresses it. He provokes the thought that the seeker after wealth is not too bound up with ordinary things but not bound up enough.
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[…] for we all need to ascribe ultimate value and power to something — if not to God then to freedom, art, nation, landscape, truth, ancestors, leaders, ethnic group, family, language, love, evil, the Devil, even money: to whatever we believe (delusionally or not; durably or not) can give our existence unassailable meaning.
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In all these cases (and like all great transformations of the self), love is experienced as both a recovery and a discovery — as a return and as a going forth.
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