How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
It Didn't Start With You
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Carl Jung also believed that what remains unconscious does not dissolve but rather, resurfaces in our lives as fate or fortune
Withdrawal of a mothers attention can all have the effect of collapsing the wall of support and restricting the flow of love in our family
The most powerful ties are the ones to the people who gave us birth... it hardly seems to matter how many years have passed, have many betrayals there may have been, how much misery in the family: We remain connected, even against our wills.
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The ancient poet Virgil declared, “Love conquers all.” If only our love is great enough, our relationship, no matter how difficult, will surely succeed.
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According to Rachel Yehuda, epigenetic changes biologically prepare us to cope with the traumas that our parents experienced. In preparation for similar stressors, we're born with a specific set of tools to help us survive.
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You can’t change your parents, but you can change the way you hold them inside you.
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...life sends us forward with something unresolved from the past.
Paternal PTSD, she discovered, increases the likelihood that the child will feel “dissociated from [his or] her memories,” whereas maternal PTSD increases the likelihood that a child will have difficulty “calming down.”
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The history you share with your family begins before you are even conceived. This means that before your mother was even born, your mother, your grandmother, and the earliest traces of you were all in the same body- three generations sharing the same biological environment.
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It's human nature: when pain is too great, people tend to avoid it. Yet when we block the feelings, we unknowingly stunt the necessary healing process that can lead us to a natural release.
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What we imagine, we make possible.
What is unresolved with our parents does not
automatically disappear. It serves as a template that forges our later
relationships.
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“What I failed to realize at the time is that when we try to resist feeling something painful, we often protract the very pain we're trying to avoid. Doing so is a prescription for continued suffering.”
O zamanlar fark edemediğim şey, acı veren bir şeye direndiğimiz zaman sıklıkla kaçınmaya çabaladığımız acının süresini uzattığımızdı.
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“If a pregnant mother experiences acute or chronic stress, her body will manufacture stress hormones (including adrenaline and noradrenaline) that travel through her bloodstream to the womb, inducing the same stressful state in the unborn child."
Verny goes on to say, “Our studies show that mothers under extreme and constant stress are more likely to have babies who are premature, lower than average in weight, hyperactive, irritable, and colicky. In extreme instances, these babies may be born with thumbs sucked raw or even with ulcers.”