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Sayfa 15
I get that I am flawed somehow. I am a failure as a partner. Somehow that truth just paralyzes me.
I feel numb. Don't know how I feel. So I just freeze up and space out.
The more disconnected/dismissed I feel...
... the more I complain.
... the more I demand.
... the more I get critical.
... the more I pursue you.
The more dangerous I appear...
... the more you move away.
... the more you defend.
... the more you shut down and shut me out.
So instead of saying a partner is "difficult," one could say, "Right now you seem so far away - you're not listening to me."