Cinsel saldırı konulu konuk dersim sırasında bir lisans öğrencisi giderek solgunlaşıyordu. Konuşmamda, bazen kadınların tecavüz sırasında orgazm olabileceğini ve bunun temelde sadece bir refleks olduğunu, zevk ya da rıza anlamına gelmediğini kısaca belirtmiştim. Ders bittikten sonra yanıma gelip, o tek cümle ile hayatını değiştirdiğimi söyledi.
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I wish to meet my dad. I wish for Chobahm to be accepted into film school. I wish for Grandma to get well. None of my brother’s birthday wishes ever come true. Not a single one of them. So what else can I do but wish that his wish would come true this time; that everyone, including him, will be unscathed by whatever disaster is unleashed. Under the dome, the world is eerie in its still darkness. It’s seven more degrees until disaster.
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While there are many such instincts, four stand out to me as the most prominent, the most distinctive, and the most dangerous.
These behaviors represent something akin to our brain’s default or factory settings. They’re behavioral programs written into our DNA by natural selection that our brains will automatically execute when triggered unless we stop and take the time to think. They have many names, but for the purposes of this book, let’s call them the emotion default, the ego default, the social default, and the inertia default.
Here’s how each essentially functions:
1. The emotion default: we tend to respond to feelings rather than reasons and facts.
2. The ego default: we tend to react to anything that threatens our sense of self-worth or our position in a group hierarchy.
3. The social default: we tend to conform to the norms of our larger social group.
4. The inertia default: we’re habit forming and comfort seeking.
We tend to resist change, and to prefer ideas, processes, and environments that are familiar.
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"Under incomplete information, following the approach of von Neumann and Morgenstern ({1944} 1963), agents will attach subjective probabilities to each consequence for each possible action and chose the action which maximizes expected utility."
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Doing it the more selfish way, of dividing your relationships into those you care about and those you don’t care too much about will not really create any big problems in the long run.
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