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Puan vermedi·249 syf.·
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·Okunma: 10 Ocak 2022 00:00
·2022 1. kitabı
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·Okunma: 10 Nisan 2021 00:00
·2021 1. kitabı
We need to look closely at our relationships to see whether they are based primarily on mutual need or on mutual happiness. We have a tendency to think that our partner has the power to make us feel good and that we’re not okay unless we have that other person there. We think, “I need this person to take care of me, or I will not survive.”
If your relationship is based on fear rather than on mutual understanding and happiness, it doesn’t have a solid foundation. You may feel you require that person for your own happiness. And yet at some point you may find the presence of the other person to be a nuisance and want to get rid of him. Then you know for sure that your feelings of peace and security did not really come from that person.
Our desire to have a partner is, in part, a continuation of our desire for someone to take care of us.
The nine months you spent in the womb were some of the most pleasant times of your life. Then the day of your birth arrived. Everything felt different around you, and you were thrust into a new environment. You felt cold and hunger for the first time. Sounds were too loud; lights were too bright. For the first time, you felt afraid. This is original fear.
Inside the palace of the child you didn’t need to use your own lungs. But at the moment of your birth, someone cut the umbilical cord and you were no longer physically joined with your mother. Your mother could no longer breathe for you. You had to learn how to breathe on your own for the first time. If you couldn’t breathe on your own, you would die. Birth was an extremely precarious time. You were pushed out of the palace, and you encountered suffering. You tried to inhale, but it was difficult. There was some liquid in your lungs and to breathe in you had to first push out that liquid. We were born, and with that birth, our fear was born along with the desire to survive. This is original desire.
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