Graham, birçok kadının neden kendi "feminenliklerinin" biyolojik ve doğuştan olduğuna ve neden "erkekler bu tarz giyinen kadınları çok daha çekici bulmasalar dahi makyaj yapmayı, saçlarını kıvırmayı ve yüksek topuklu ayakkabı giymeyi seçeceklerine" (1994, s. 197) inandıklarına dair bir açıklama getiriyor. Kadınlar buna inanıyor, der, çünkü "farklı şekilde inanmak", davranışlarımızın "dış değişkenler" tarafından kontrol edildiğinin kabul edilmesini gerektirir; yani erkeklerin güç kullanması ve bunun yarattığı tehdit. Bunun kabul edilmesi, kadınların "terörümüzü kabul etmeleri" gerektiği anlamına gelecektir (s. 197). "Kadınlar için artık feminen olmamayı düşünmek korkutucudur,” der (s. 199) ve feminenlikten vazgeçmekle ilgili neyin korkutucu olduğunu sorgulamanın, ondan tamamen vazgeçme kararına yol açabileceği sonucuna varır. (Jeffreys, Sheila. Beauty and Misogyny: Harmful cultural practices in the West, s.26)
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·20 Temmuz 2023 22:46
Graham offers an explanation for why many women believe that their "femininity" is biological and inherent and why, "we believe that we would choose to wear makeup, curl our hair, and wear high heels even if men didn't find women who dressed this way more attractive" (1994, p. 197). Women believe this, she says, because "to believe differently" would require the acknowledgement that our behaviour is controlled by "external variables"; that is, men's use of force and its threat. Recognizing this would mean that women would have to "acknowledge our terror" (p. 197). She says that "It is scary for women to contemplate no longer being feminine" (p. 199) and concludes that examining what it is that is scary about giving up femininity may lead to the decision to give it up altogether.
Graham offers an explanation for why many women believe that their "femininity" is biological and inherent and why, "we believe that we would choose to wear makeup, curl our hair, and wear high heels even if men didn't find women who dressed this way more attractive" (1994, p. 197). Women believe this, she says, because "to believe differently" would require the acknowledgement that our behaviour is controlled by "external variables"; that is, men's use of force and its threat. Recognizing this would mean that women would have to "acknowledge our terror" (p. 197). She says that "It is scary for women to contemplate no longer being feminine" (p. 199) and concludes that examining what it is that is scary about giving up femininity may lead to the decision to give it up altogether.
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