YOUTH: One wants to change, but changing is scary?
PHILOSOPHER: When we try to change our lifestyles, we put our great
courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing, and the
disappointment attendant to not changing, I am sure you have selected
the latter.
YOUTH: Wait .. . Just now, you used the word “courage.”
PHILOSOPHER: Yes. Adlerian psychology is a psychology of courage.
Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment.
And it isn't that you lack competence, You just lack courage. One might
say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.