keşke insanları da ağaçlar gibi budayıp gençleştirebilsek.kötü anıları kessek, acıları, bütün hayal kırıklarılarını, ölü bir hücre gibi çıkarsak, hataları, aptal kararları, yanılmaları kesip atsak. düşünceleri budasak, keşke bunlar her kış sonrası yapılsa. hani yeni yıl tertemiz ve masum olsun diye. ne de olsa gelecek kışlardan birinin bizi öldüreceği aşikar.
according to their analysis, the basis for bonding was shared victimization, hence the emphasis on common oppression. this concept of bonding directly reflects male supremacist thinking. sexist ideology teaches women that to be female is to be a victim. rather than repudiate this equation (which mystifies female experience-in their daily lives most women are not continually passive, helpless, or powerless "victims"), women's liberationists embraced it, making shared victimization the basis for woman bonding. this meant that women had to conceive of themselves as "victims" in order to feel that feminist movement was relevant to their lives. bonding as victims created a situation in which assertive, self-affirming women were often seen as having no place in feminist movement. It was this logic that led white w9men activists (along with black men) to suggest that black women were so "strong" they did not need to be active in feminist movement. it was this logic that led many white women activists to abandon feminist movement when they no longer embraced the victim identity. ironically, the women who were most eager to be seen as "victims," who overwhelmingly stressed the role of victim, were more privileged and powerful than the vast majority of women in our society. an example of this tendency is some writing about violence against women. women who are exploited and oppressed daily cannot afford to relinquish the belief that they exercise some measure of control, however relative, over their lives. they cannot afford to see themselves solely as "victims" because their survival depends on continued exercise of whatever personal powers they possess. it would be psychologically demoralizing for these women to bond with other women on the basis of shared victimization. they