Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship With Acceptance and Commitment
Act With Love
Russ HarrisAct With Love Gönderileri
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A relationship is like a dance: as you change your footsteps, your partner will change his.
-Russ Harris-
Sayfa 60 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
What's look like A healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is like two towering mountains with a magnificent valley between them through which the river of life flows strong and fast and free. Neither mountain needs the other and yet their connection to one another gives rise to a lush valley teeming with the wonder of nature.
Sayfa 59 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Hepimiz özünde kontrol many*ğıyız...
The truth is we're all control freaks at heart, we all like to get what we want.
Sayfa 54 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
-İkiniz de incinirsiniz-
We both get hurt
“İnsanlar sosyal hayvanlardır. Gönül meseleleri söz konusu olduğunda çoğumuz oldukça benzeriz. Sevilmek, saygı duyulmak ve önemsenmek istiyoruz. Başkalarıyla iyi geçinmek ve genellikle onlarla iyi vakit geçirmek isteriz. Sevdiğimiz insanlarla kavga ettiğimizde, onları reddettiğimizde veya onlardan uzaklaştığımızda kendimizi iyi hissetmeyiz. Ve bizimle kavga ettiklerinde, reddettiklerinde veya bizden uzaklaştıklarında kendimizi daha da kötü hissederiz. Yani partnerinizle kavga ettiğinizde ikiniz de incinirsiniz. “
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Act With Love -
Yusuf Özlük
@josephvsbooks
·07 Nisan 14:44
Humans are social animals. When it comes to affairs of the heart, most of us are pretty similar. We want to be loved, respected, and cared for. We want to get along with others and generally have a good time with them. When we fight with, reject, or distance ourselves from the people we love, we don't feel good. And when they fight with, reject, or distance themselves from us, we feel even worse. So when you fight with your partner, you both get hurt.
Sayfa 43 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
We both get hurt
Humans are social animals. When it comes to affairs of the heart, most of us are pretty similar. We want to be loved, respected, and cared for. We want to get along with others and generally have a good time with them. When we fight with, reject, or distance ourselves from the people we love, we don't feel good. And when they fight with, reject, or distance themselves from us, we feel even worse. So when you fight with your partner, you both get hurt.
Sayfa 43 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Human beings do not like unpleasant feelings, and we all try hard to avoid them. This is completely natural, but it also creates problems. The more importance we place on avoiding unpleasant feelings in life, the more our life tends to go downhill!
Sayfa 20 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Biriyle bağlantı kurduğumuzda anda oluruz
When we connect with someone, we are psychoilogically present, in other words, we are right here with them, in this moment, fully engaged.
(Çevirisi: Biriyle bağlantı kurduğumuzda psikolojik olarak orada oluruz, başka bir deyişle tam burada (anda kalmak), o anda onunla tamamen meşgul oluruz.)
Sayfa 18 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Bağlanmak
“The word "connection" comes from the Latin terms com, meaning "together," and nectere, meaning "to bind." Thus when we connect with someone, it's as if something binds us together, unites us in some special way.”
Sayfa 18 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
aşk bizi savunmasız bırakıyor.
'The great joke about being human is that the people we spend the most time with and know most intimately are the very same people who "push our buttons" the most. (...) it hurts far more when it comes from the person we love. There is no getting away from this: love makes us vulnerable.'
Sayfa 2 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Baharın kışı takip etmesi gibi duygular da gelir ve gider.
Feelings come and they go, surely as spring follows winter.
Sayfa 2 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Act With Love
Instead of a feeling, think of love as an action. The feeling of love comes and goes on a whim, you can't control it. But the action of love is something you can do, regardless of how you are feeling.
Sayfa 13 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
And as you learn to truly accept your partner's differences, you'll find your frustration, resentment, or anger starts to dissolve so you can enjoy the many pleasures that a healthy relationship can give you.
Sayfa 12 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Falling in love is easy. Anyone can do it. It's like eating your favorite food or watching a great movie-lots of pleasure, no effort involved. But staying in love-now that's a real challenge, a challenge that's all the greater because of all the stuff and nonsense that's been pumped into our heads over the years.
Sayfa 9 - New Harbinger Publications,2009Kitabı okuyor
Yaşadığınız acı size 3 mühim şey söylemektedir:
1. Hayattasınız; bu iyi bir başlangıç.
2. İnsansınız; insanlar acı çektiğinde böyle hissederler.
3. Bir kalbiniz var; eğer hiçbir şeyi umurunuzda olmasaydı, bu acı dolu hisleri de tecrübe etmiyor olurdunuz.
Değerleriniz bu gezegende geçireceğiniz kısa süre boyunca ne yapmak ve neyi temsil etmek istediğinize dair kalbinizin en derin arzularıdır.
