The pressure to be “good” is not exclusive to one gender, nor is it applied equally to all genders. To be clear, the stress on girls to be “good” far surpasses any stress men might feel to be “good.” This disparity is perhaps best exemplified by the fact that when a girl does something “wrong,” few mourn her goodness. We rarely hear “I thought she was one of the good girls.” Women who behave “badly” are ultimately not given the same benefit of the doubt as men and are immediately cast off as bitches or sluts. Men might be written as “dogs,” but their reckless behavior is more often unnoticed, forgiven, or even celebrated — hence our cultural fixation with bad boys.
I’m afraid of men not because of any singular encounter with a man. I’m afraid of men because of the cumulative damage caused by the everyday experiences I’ve recounted here, and by those untold, and by those I continue to face.
None of these stories are exceptional. I’m afraid of how common, if not mild, my experiences are. Many people have endured more savage forms of violence inflicted by men. I’m also afraid that the most prevalent response these stories will elicit is pity. Even worse, I’m afraid of the necessity of eliciting in order to generate concern or to galvanize change.
However horrible Cardan might be, I now see what he might become and am truly afraid.
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The Blinds
I moved to Philadelphia for some peace and quiet after New York City. After paying a week’s rent in a roominghouse, I walked down the street to look for the nearest bar. Half a block. I walked in and sat down. It was the poor part of town and the bar was fifty years old. You could smell the urine and shit of one-half a century wafting
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If
Sayfa 44 - Max Ehrmann was an American attorney and poet who often wrote on spiritual themes. During his life, he contributed great thoughts to our literary lexicons, blending the magic of words and wisdom with his worthy observations.
İki çeşit başarısızlık vardır.
⨳Birincisi korktuğunuz ya da en kusursuz zamanı beklediğiniz için fikirlerinizi uygulamamanızdan kaynaklanır. Bu tip başarısızlıktan ders alamazsınız ve ürkeklik sizi yıkıma sürükler.
⨳İkinci başarısızlık cesur ve girişimci ruhtan kaynaklanır. Bu durumda başarısızlığa uğrarsanız, şöhretinizin zedelenmesi öğrendiklerinizle kıyaslanınca pek önemli olmaz.
☆•Yinelenen başarısızlık ruhunuzu sağlamlaştıracak ve işlerin nasıl yürüyeceğini size apaçık gösterecektir.°☆
There are two kinds of failure.
⨳The first comes from never trying out your ideas because you are afraid, or because you are waiting for the perfect time. This kind of failure you can never learn from, and such timidity will destroy you.
⨳The second kind comes from a bold and venturesome spirit. If you fail in this way, the hit that you take to your reputation is greatly outweighed by what you learn.
☆°Repeated failure will toughen your spirit and show you with absolute clarity how things must be done.°☆
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