The riskiest emotions, and thus the most frequently exiled, are acute grief and healthy anger, two feelings that often get tarred as "negative." Of course, a child may also have cause to banish her joy, enthusiasm, or pride if these arouse disapproval, envy, or just blank incomprehension on the part of parents too stressed, distracted, or depressed themselves. Either way, repressing the rejected emotion is the surest way of escaping overwhelming levels of vulnerability, of avoiding a too -painful rift between oneself and the ambient world.
Kneeling in the dust. Sinking still lower. Lying prostrate in that dust, pallid taste on the tongue, a smell of desiccated decay stinging the nostrils. Was it any wonder that all manner of beasts enacted the mission of surrender by lying prone on the ground, in a posture of vulnerability, beseeching mercy from a merciless nature: the throat-bared submission to knives and fangs dancing with the sun’s light? Playing out the act of the victim—she recalled once seeing a bull bhederin, javelin-pierced half a dozen times, the shafts clattering and trailing, the enormous creature fighting to remain standing. As if to stand was all that mattered, all that defined it as being still alive, as being worthy of life, and in its red-rimmed eyes such stubborn defiance. It knew that as soon as it fell, its life was over.
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Soula got the point of this story. To pursue her goal of finding a partner, she started going on dates with guys she met through the online dating agency. She was willing to make room for feelings of vulnerability, insecurity and anxiety, and for thoughts like ‘I’m wasting my time’, ‘I’ll only meet weirdos and losers’ and ‘If I do meet anyone nice, they won’t like me’. Her willingness to have that discomfort enabled her to go on some dates and meet some nice guys.
Nothing in Nature "becomes itself" without being vulnerable: the mightiest tree's growth requires soft and supple shoots, just as the hardest-shelled crustacean must first molt and become soft. The same goes for us: no emotional vulnerability, no growth. Even our "tougher" qualities like resilience, determination, confidence, and bravery, if authentic and not mere bluster, have that softer state as a necessary precursor.
The arms race between cybercriminals and security professionals is perpetual; as soon as one vulnerability is patched, another is discovered.
Siber suçlular ve güvenlik uzmanları arasındaki silahlanma yarışı süreklidir; bir zafiyet kapatılır kapatılmaz, bir diğeri keşfedilir.
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In the realm of hidden networks, your greatest vulnerability is not the software you use, but the digital footprint you unknowingly leave behind.
Gizli ağların dünyasında en büyük zafiyetiniz kullandığınız yazılım değil, farkında olmadan geride bıraktığınız dijital ayak izidir.
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