Jim not that way Jim. That's no way to treat a garage door, bending stiffly down at the waist and yanking at the handle so the door jerks up and out jerky and hard and you crack your shins and my ruined knees, son. Let's see you bend at the healthy knees. Let's see you hook a soft hand lightly over the handle feeling its subtle grain and pull just as exactly gently as will make it come to you. Experiment, Jim. See just how much force you need to start the door easy, let it roll up out open on its hidden greasy rollers and pulleys in the ceiling's set of spiderwebbed beams. Think of all garage doors as the well-oiled open-out door of a broiler with hot meat in, heat roiling out, hot. Needless and dangerous ever to yank, pull, shove, thrust. Your mother is a shover and a thruster, son. She treats bodies outside herself without respect or due care. She's never learned that treating things in the gentlest most relaxed way is also treating them and your own body in the most efficient way. It's Marlon Brando's fault, Jim. Your mother back in California before you were born, before she became a devoted mother and long-suffering wife and breadwinner, son, your mother had a bit part in a Marlon Brando movie. Her big moment. Had to stand there in saddle shoes and bobby sox and ponytail and put her hands over her ears as really loud motorbikes roared by. A major thespian moment, believe you me. She was in love from afar with this fellow Marlon Brando, son. Who? Who. Jim, Marlon Brando was the archetypal new-type actor who ruined it looks like two whole generations' relations with their own bodies and the everyday objects and bodies around them. No? Well it was because of Brando you were opening that garage door like that, Jimbo. The disrespect gets learned and passed on. Passed
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Fazla empati yapmak sempatik sinir sistemini devreye sokuyor. Kendi derdine düştüğün için yardım etmek adına harekete geçmiyorsun. If seeing someone in pain actives your SNS (sempatik nervous system), you’er likely to be preoccupied with your own distress instead of helping, turn on the PNS, and it’s the opposite (69).
PreFrontal Cortex Amigdala
Prefrontal cotex is not fully online until people are in their midtwenties (109).
Frontal korteks was bidirectionally enmeshed with the limbic system, leading him to propose that the frontal cortex is a quasi member of the limbic sysytem (72).
Amigdalanın boyutu fazla strese maruz kalırsa büyüyor bunun sonucu nedir? Aşırı hassasiyet ve boyunca stres tepkisinin ateşlenmesi. Moreover, the amygdala expands in size with long-term PTSD (85).
People with damaged amgydalae are atypically generous in the Ultimatum Game and don’t increase rejection rates if they start receiving unfair offers (94). Kuralları anlıyorlar çünkü korteks çalışıyor fakat kendilerini koruyamıyorlar.
Çok İlginç DİYALEKTİK: Importantly, increase cognitive load on the frontal cortex, and afterward subjects become less prosocial –less charitable or helpful, more likely to lie. Or increase cognitive laod with a task requiring difficult emotional regulation and subjects cheat more on their diets afterward (119).
Sosyal Karmaşıklık PreFrontal Korteksin Gelişmesini Sağlıyor SOSYOLOJİ DERSİ (Neden bencil olamayız. Çünkü insanlığımızı toplumsallığımıza borçluyuz):Another study resolves this; if rhesus monkeys are randomly placed into social groups, over the subsequent fifteen months, the bigger the group, the larger the PFC becomes- social complexity expands the frontal cortex (123).
Dorsolateral PFC: PFC (dlPFC) don’t worry about dorsal or dorsolateral it’s just
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KİTABIN ÖZETİ
Natural selection is a remarkably simple process that is essentially the outcome of three common phenomena
1. Variation. Every organism differs from other members of its species (43).
2. Generic Heritability.
3. Differential reproductive success (43).
Çok fazla artık var: It turns out that nearly a third of your genome has no apparent function but exists because it somehow got added or lost its function over eons (51).
ŞEKER: This diease arises when celss througout your body cease to respond to insülin, a hormone that shuttles sugar out of the bloodstream and stores it as fat (69).
Ardipithecus ramidus dated to 4.5 to 4.3 million years ago (126).
Modern humans with new Technologies showed up again in the Middle East around 50000 years ago and then rapidly spread to the North, east and West. According to the best dates now available, modern humans first appeared in Europe about 40000 years ago, in Asia about 60000 years ago, and in New Guinea and Australia by 40000 years ago. Archaelogical sites indicated that humans also mmaganged to cross the Bering Strait and colonize the New Wrold sometime between 30000 and 15000 years ago (482)
Evrim ve İklim:
Although this cooling happened over millions of years and with endless fluctuations between warmer and colder periods, the overall effect in Africa was to cause rain forests to shrink and woodland habitats to expand. Now imagine yourself as the LCA- a larde bodied, fruit-eating ape during this period. If youwere living in the heart of the rain forest, you probabaly would not have noticed much of a difference. But if you had the misfortune to be living at the margins of the forets then this change must have been stressful (148).
Global cooling involved many back and forth shifts, but by 2.6 million years ago the earth had
İf you kill the people who you love, or run away from them, you only destroy yourself in the end. You have to accept them, or change yourself.
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The Seductive Process
Phase One: Separation—Stirring Interest and Desire
1-Choose the Right Victim:
Everything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or unhappy, or can easily be made so—for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce. The perfect victim has some quality that inspires strong emotions in you, making your seductive maneuvers seem more natural and dynamic. The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase.
2-Create a False Sense of Security—Approach Indirectly:
If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be lowered. At first there must be nothing of the seducer in your manner. The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your target's life—approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover. Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.
3-Send Mixed Signals:
Once people are aware of your presence, and perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to stir their interest before it settles on someone else. Most of us are much too obvious—instead, be hard to figure out. Send mixed signals: both tough and tender, both spiritual and earthly, both innocent and cunning. A mix of qualities suggests depth, which fascinates even as it confuses. An elusive, enigmatic aura will make people want to know more, drawing them into your circle. Create such a power by hinting at something contradictory within you.
4-Appear to Be an Object of Desire—Create
