«Çevrimiçi Oxford Sözlüğü'ne göre günün kelimesi hikikomori: In Japan the abnormal avoidance of social contact. Japanese origin, literally "staying indoors, (social) withdrawal".
*Japoncada sosyal temastan aşırı derecede kaçınmak. Japoncası tam olarak "içeride kalmak, (sosyal) çekilme" anlamına gelir. (e.n.)»
Sayfa 52
Before I left at dawn I drew the lines of her hand on a piece of paper and gave it to Diva Sahibi for a
reading so I could know her soul. She said: A person who says only what she thinks. Perfect for manual labor.
She's in contact with someone who has died and from whom she expects help, but she's mistaken: the help she's
looking
"Çözüm: her eleştiriye beş iltifat"
Kadın beyni kendisini hayal kırıklığından korumak için kötü senaryolar kurmaya eğilimlidir ve ardından da üzerinde fazla düşünmeden suçu erkek beynine atar. Sürekli eleştirinin beyne zararları vardır. Bir erkek partneri tarafından eleştirildiğinde beyni savunmaya geçer.
RCZ'si erkeğe kendisinin eleştirildiği gibi olmadığını söyler ve erkek her türlü temastan kaçınmaya başlar. Bu durum aşağıya doğru bir spiral gibi uzar ve sonunun bir çıkmaz sokak olduğu kesindir. Çiftin, iki tarafın da arzuladığı sevgi ve ilgiden mahrum kalmasına sebep olur.
The female brain tends to create bad scenarios to protect herself from disappointment, and then blames it on the male brain without giving it much thought. Constant criticism has harm to the brain. When a man is criticized by her partner, his brain becomes defensive.
His RCZ tells the man that he is not what he is criticized for, and the man begins to avoid all contact. This situation extends like a downward spiral and is certain to end in a dead end. It causes the couple to be deprived of the love and attention that both parties desire.
Sayfa 154 - Say YayınlarıKitabı okudu
"What can I do?" he asks with a wretched expression. "What can I do to stop you from doing that again? I don't understand emotions, but you do, Bran. You do spectacularly well, and I'm asking, no, I'm begging you to tell me what I can do to make it better. Should I fuck off out of your life? Cut contact? Not visit Mum and Dad while you're there? Will my disappearance stop you from having that nonsensical inferiority complex?"
"That's about the worst thing you can do, Lan. I need you by my side. I always have.”
None of that is responsible for my frequent feeling of nausea over the squalor of daily life. It’s the people who habitually surround me, the souls, who know me through conversation and the contact without knowing me at all
Little or no eye contact is not indicative of deception (Vrij, 2003, 38-39). This is rubbish for reasons discussed in the previous chapter. Keep in mind that predators and habitual liars actually engage in greater eye contact than most individuals, and will lock eyes with you. Research clearly shows that Machiavellian people (for example, psychopaths, conmen, and habitual liars) will actually increase eye contact during deception (Ekman, 1991, 141-142). Perhaps this increase in eye contact is consciously employed by such individuals because it is so commonly (but erroneously) believed that looking someone straight in the eye is a sign of truthfulness.
When people place their arms behind their backs, first they are saying, “I am of higher status.” Second, they are transmitting, “Please don’t come near me; I am not to be touched.” This behavior is often misunderstood as merely a pensive or thinking pose, but unless seen in someone studying a painting at a museum, for example, it is not. Putting the arms behind the back is a clear signal that means, “Don’t get close; I don’t want to make contact with you” (…).
Foot and leg behavior is especially important to observe when you first meet people. It reveals a lot about how they feel about you. Personally, when I first meet someone, I typically lean in, give the person a hearty handshake (depending on the appropriate cultural norms in the situation), make good eye contact, and then take a step back and see what happens next. One of three responses is likely to take place: (a) the person will remain in place, which lets me know he or she is comfortable at that distance; (b) the individual will take a step back or turn slightly away, which lets me know he or she needs more space or wants to be elsewhere; or (c) the person will actually take a step closer to me, which means he or she feels comfortable and/or favorable toward me. I take no offense to the individual’s behavior because I am simply using this opportunity to see how he or she really feels about me.
Her gaze strays sideways, and I hate it when she breaks eye contact. I have to see her all the time, and she’s never shied away from me, so when she breaks our connection, I feel a weird sense of loss.
Sayfa 348Kitabı okudu
"We know - in our hearts - that we will ultimately live and most importantly
die alone: moments of comfort are rare but can be found, found in the fleshly encounter of one with another, most especially when we find ways to make contact beyond/outside language."
May my eyes always stay level to the horizon
may they never gaze as high as heaven
to ask why
May I never go where angels fear to tread
so as to have to ask for answers in the sky
The whys in this lifetime i've found are inconsequential compared to the magic of the nowness- the solution to most questions
there are no reasons.
and if there are- i'm wrong
but at least i won't have spent my life waiting
looking for God in the clouds of the dawn
or listening out for otherworldly contact 30 billion light years on
No. i'll let the others do the pondering while i'll be sitting on the lawn reading something unsubstantial
Sempati duymak
Eşler arasında sözsüz düzeydeki eşzamanlılık ne denli fazlaysa, depresyondaki kadınların eşleri, kendilerini tartışma sonrasında o denli kötü hissetmişler; yani, kız arkadaşlarının kötü ruh haline yakalanmışlardır. Kısacası, insanlar kendilerini iyi ya da kötü hissettiklerinde, temasları ne kadar fiziksel ahenk içindeyse, ruh halleri de o kadar benzeşmektedir.
The greater the nonverbal synchronicity between the spouses, the worse the wives of the depressed women felt after the argument, i.e. the worse the mood of their girlfriends. In short, when people feel good or bad, the more physically harmonious their contact, the more similar their moods.
Sayfa 162 - Varlık Yayınları 33. BasımKitabı okudu
Kadın, kocasının o konuştuğunda nadiren kendisini dinlediğini, bunun yerine gazetesini okuduğunu veya başka bir şey yaptığını itiraf etti.
Sonra ortaya çıktı ki çocukken de kimse onu dinlememişti ve aslında birisinin onu dinlemek için zaman ayırıp ilgi göstereceğini hayal bile edemiyordu. Kimse onu dinleyecek kadar sevmemişti. Destek görmediği ve kendini önemsiz hissettiği için içindeki çocukla tüm temasını yitirmiş, çevresiyle hiç yakın iletişim kurmadan yaşamaya kendini alıştırmıştı. Erken yaştaki yoksunluğunun üzerine kurduğu rutin bir hayatta kalma yöntemi ile tüm korkularının üzerini örtmüştü.
She admitted that her husband rarely listened to her when she spoke, instead reading the newspaper or doing something else.
It turned out that no one had listened to her as a child either, and in fact she could not imagine that anyone would take the time and interest to listen to her. No one loved her enough to listen to her. Because she felt unsupported and unimportant, she had lost all contact with her inner child and had accustomed herself to living without any close contact with her environment. She had covered all her fears with a routine survival method she had built on her early deprivation.
Sayfa 36 - Butik YayıncılıkKitabı okudu
Tıp Dergisi Medisch Contact'teki bir makalede aşı olmanın kötü olduğu çünkü derinin yırtılıyormuş gibi hissedildiği belirtilmiş. Norveç'te hastaneler özel iğne ve şırınga bekledikleri için aşı kampanyası ertelenmiş. Yetkililer domuz gribi aşığı iğnelerinin mevsim gribi iğnelerinden farklı olup riskleri minimuma indirerek, enjeksiyon işlemini basitleştirdiklerini söylüyorlar. Hepsi yerine oturuyor bütün Büyük Ecza firmalarının insan mikrotipleme üreticisi VeriChip ile anlaşmalarının olduğunu bildiriyorlar. Dr Ryke Geerd Hamer her bir aşı iğnesinin özel bir kod numarası olduğunu bunun da kimlik numarasına ilave edildiğini anlattı.
