Bu özgürlük temelde kendimize ve başkalarına karşı daha cömert bir ruh benimsemekten gelir. İnsanları kabul ederek, anlayarak ve eğer mümkünse yapılarını severek zihnimizi takıntılı ve önemsiz duygulardan armdırabiliriz. Başkalarının yaptığı ve söylediği her şeye tepki vermekten vazgeçebiliriz. Aramıza mesafe koyabiliriz ve her şeyi kişisel
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Yet not for us to forget is our escape from a long nightmare
The exchange of a monstrous world for one relatively sane. To see, and where we can to disentangle, the facts of Nature free from those perplexing mysteries which were in truth not there. There remains and to spare of deeper mystery. The mystery of Nature needs no superstition. Leonardo's Note- books, portraying Nature without superstition, are yet per- vaded by its mystery. Today man can go out into the natural world without carrying the distortion of monstrosity with him. We can interrogate the natural world with a confidence drawn from riddance of misunderstanding no less than from extension of understanding. We can see with whom it is we talk. What wears a divine livery can without fear or favour display it to man's gaze. The position for reading from Nature's lips what she may have to say of Godhead never yet in the past was what it is for us today.
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You've probably been told before that you can't change other people; no amount of nagging insisting, demanding or manipulating will do it. But what you can do is understand other people's motivations, needs and emotions. Once you have a better understanding of what someone is feeling, once you can make sense of and see meaning in their emotions, you are better placed to manage the other person and their emotions.
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-Gerçek bilgelik, başkalarının isteklerine kendi irademizi dayatmaya çalışmaktan ziyade, etrafımızdaki insanların ihtiyaçlarını ve isteklerini anlamakta ve onlara en iyi şekilde hizmet etmeye çalışmakta yatar.
-True wisdom lies not in trying to impose one's will on others, but in understanding the needs and desires of those around us and seeking to serve them as best we can.
Effective communication works on the understanding that we
all have very specific needs in relationships, many of which are
determined by your attachment style. They aren't good or bad,
they simply are what they are. If you're anxious, you have a strong
need for closeness and have to be reassured at all times that your
partner loves and respects you. If you're avoidant, you need to be
able to maintain some distance, either emotional or physical, from
your partner and preserve a large degree of separateness. In order
to be happy in a relationship, we need to find a way to commu-
nicate our attachment needs clearly without resorting to attacks
or defensiveness.
If anything it will free you to have a better, healthier future relationship with someone who is genuinely important to you – a relationship based on genuine desire, mutual respect, complimentary understanding of each other and love, rather than one based on a fear of losing your ONE and only representation of contentment in this life. In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.
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Veritaserum
‘Because he needs to understand,’ said Dumbledore curtly. ‘Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.’
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We are taught not to trust ourselves, our gut instincts, or our core emotional responses. Our sense of self-understanding, self-control, and self-compassion is distorted by our early teachings. Our needs are complex, unique, and often ignored or rejected.
It’s important for me to link my critique of the attention economy to the promise of bioregional awareness because I believe that capitalism, colonialist thinking, loneliness, and an abusive stance toward the environment all coproduce one another. It’s also important because of the parallels between what the economy does to an ecological system and what the attention economy does to our attention. In both cases, there’s a tendency toward an aggressive monoculture, where those components that are seen as “not useful” and which cannot be appropriated (by loggers or by Facebook) are the first to go. Because it proceeds from a false understanding of life as atomized and optimizable, this view of usefulness fails to recognize the ecosystem as a living whole that in fact needs all of its parts to function. Just as practices like logging and large-scale farming decimate the land, an overemphasis on performance turns what was once a dense and thriving landscape of individual and communal thought into a Monsanto farm whose “production” slowly destroys the soil until nothing more can grow. As it extinguishes one species of thought after another, it hastens the erosion of attention.
The most important part of the language that all the world spoke - the language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their heart. It was love. Something older than humanity, more ancient than the desert. Something that exerted the same force whenever two pair of eyes met. It required no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time.
Without such love, one's dreams would have no meaning.
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the steps of friendship
The issues with friends are three-fold: first is the matter of identifying who might become a potential friend and knowing when they have become one; second, is the actual social effort and understanding required to physically spend time in their presence; and, third, is the understanding of how the friendship needs to be maintained (through contact) in-between meetings.
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A massive difference, mainly in terms of understanding myself and not being so hard on myself. It explained so much of my life, my needs, my choices, and it made me feel justified and validated in being how I am. It makes it easier to meet people and take on new experiences because I know why I find things difficult, I know what might help, and if it doesn’t work I am more accepting. It helps with the guilt – why didn’t I travel the world during my gap year, why aren’t I using my PhD to commute to London to work a 50-hour-a-week job, why don’t I go to parties when I am invited, why do I not enjoy parties I do go to when I have guilted myself into going, etc. (Woman with autism, diagnosed aged 31 years)
Obscurity, indeed, is painful to the mind as well as to the eye; but to bring light from obscurity, by whatever labour, must needs be delightful and rejoicing.
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